For years, millennial women were told: lean in, work hard, and you can have it all. A thriving career, a fulfilling family life, a picture-perfect home, and time to stay healthy and grounded.

It’s easy to think of perfectionism as a “good” trait — after all, it pushes you to work hard, be detail-oriented, and achieve. But if you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of second-guessing, overthinking, or never feeling “good enough,” you’ve seen the darker side of perfectionism. Therapy can help.